Separation

[RaZor Ramon]

So some life news. Weekend just gone me and the wife decided to separate. It was a completely mutual decision, we are basically just lodgers looking after kids and sharing a house and have been for a while.

Struggling to figure out where I go from here?

[erimus74]

So some life news. Weekend just gone me and the wife decided to separate. It was a completely mutual decision, we are basically just lodgers looking after kids and sharing a house and have been for a while.

Struggling to figure out where I go from here?

Sorry to hear that Razor

[RaZor Ramon]

I'm fine guys mentally, she'd been waiting for me to bring it up as she felt the same way, just drifted apart really. She'll always be one of my best friends and I'll always love her just not in love with her. She is the mother of my three fabulous children afterall.

Not looking forward to telling the kids next week at all.

[Blott]

Sorry to hear that, best wishes and hope everything gets sorted.

[erimus74]

I'm fine guys mentally, she'd been waiting for me to bring it up as she felt the same way, just drifted apart really. She'll always be one of my best friends and I'll always love her just not in love with her. She is the mother of my three fabulous children afterall.

Not looking forward to telling the kids next week at all.

That must be so hard for a parent to tell their kids

It does come across reading as though the seperation will be amicable, which is the nost important for the kids to know

[Francks left peg]

Sorry to hear your news Ramon. It sounds like you have made the best decision for you and your kids. After all, if you and the Mrs aren't happy, it's likely the kids aren't as happy as they can be. Hope it all goes as well as it can.

[AtomicDog]

Sorry to hear that Razor,

Take care Lad

AD

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[RaZor Ramon]

I'm fine guys mentally, she'd been waiting for me to bring it up as she felt the same way, just drifted apart really. She'll always be one of my best friends and I'll always love her just not in love with her. She is the mother of my three fabulous children afterall.

Not looking forward to telling the kids next week at all.

That must be so hard for a parent to tell their kids

It does come across reading as though the seperation will be amicable, which is the nost important for the kids to know

It's been very amicable erimus thank god. We haven't told the kids yet, leaving that till Saturday and then they've got the full weekend and half term to process things before going back to school.

The kids are the priority of every choice we are making at the moment, I've hopefully found myself a flat in the same village for a decent price so fingers crossed that comes off and I can stop sleeping on the sofa.

[BoroRedKen]

Any help or advice i can offer Razor?

Even if you just need to chat about shit contact me privately Razor.

We all have our faults on here but the 1 thing we do is stick together when things dont go right.

Feel free to post and let of steam anytime you want mate. You will get no judgements on here.

Is it ok to say its "refreshing" to hear its amicable and the kids are both your 1st priority?

Good luck and best wishes to you both.

[teamboro]

Sorry to hear Razor

[Northallerton_Boro]

AS splits go this is probably the best way it can go - amicable.

Difficulty is obviously going to be telling the kids (no idea on their aged). However, in time, they will see that  you are both happier which will only benefit them in the long run. The fact it sounds that you and the wife will remain friends will also be a massive help.

Good luck to you and your future. You are in control so make it what you want and don't let any guilt eat you up.

[TMG501]

We all have our faults on here

Speak for yourself mate. I'm perfect 

[RiversideRifle]

Razor good luck mate. One thing the kids have is two parents who love and want the best for them. It's nice to see it was mutual and you're doing it amicably mate 👍👍👍👍👍👍

[BoroRedKen]

Well i cant offer any "professional" help, fmttm and CP have decided that for me so its the best i can offer.

[Poolielad]

As long as it's amicable I think the kids will be fine mate, they may play one off against the other at times, but that's kids😇😇. It's when it gets messy I think the kids start to get effected, which is sad, because it's not the kids fault.... But youse sound like the type of people who would put the kids first anyway mate... Good luck fella.

[TeessideTopgun]

Went through it 30 years ago , thought it was the end of the world .

We had a year old daughter and I decided that was all that mattered

Turns out was the best decision all round , my relationship with my daughter could not be closer, and I have had a great time.

Still friends with the ex although  we very rarely see each other , just birthdays etc.

Everyone mentions time ..... !!! but its true. So long as you do right by the kids hou will be fine .

Best of luck for the weekend, will be hardest thing you have ever done , hope it goes as well as can be expected 👍

[RaZor Ramon]

Cheers guys. Good to hear from those who've experienced it. Puts my mind at ease a bit.

Hoping to hear back about this flat today like

[BoroRedKen]

Cheers guys. Good to hear from those who've experienced it. Puts my mind at ease a bit.

Hoping to hear back about this flat today like

Know a few lads with properties scattered all over Razor. Any problems give us a shout and i will ring around for you.

 

[BoroRedKen]

I got divorced over 24 years ago now!

Lived in the park and thought that was it for me.

Got a flat and a job and met Carmen and never looked back Razor.

Kids hate me but hey thats life!

As long as they are safe, well, loved and looked after that whats counts mate.

 

[RaZor Ramon]

Cheers guys. Good to hear from those who've experienced it. Puts my mind at ease a bit.

Hoping to hear back about this flat today like

Know a few lads with properties scattered all over Razor. Any problems give us a shout and i will ring around for you.

 

Cheera bro I'll keep that in mind.

[RaZor Ramon]

Didn't get the flat. Gadgy is selling it instead.

Gutted.

[In With the Lurpak]

Life can sometimes have a funny way of working out Razor. Could well split up go off and do your own things for 4  5  6 months or maybe a year and you both realise you wanna be back together it's a funny old thing splitting up specially with kids . If there is a good part it's you're both on the same wave length with doing it. No bitterness involved is a bonus . All the best to you all   

[Francks left peg]

Didn't get the flat. Gadgy is selling it instead.

Gutted.

Sorry to hear that, Razor. I'm sure something even better will come along.

[TerryCochranesSocks]

I went through it from the child's side. My parents split when I was 16 and the ramifications of that have affected significant parts of my life for 40 years. This was because my parent's divorce was acrimonious and the lies and bitterness destroyed any chance of a normal relationship with them.
Keep truthful and keep friends, never play the kids off against the ex and you and them will be fine. You sound like a particularly sensible couple.

[rutters]

DON'T MOVE OUT!

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